Wow.. a whole year has flown by since I started my blog! It’s been fun (and also vulnerable) to write on subjects that I’ve either been going through or gaining perspective on. I started blogging just as a hobby and really wanting to encourage others, but then it became something more to me. Almost borderline unhealthy. As I started to gain some influence, I felt the pressure to do more. The content was genuine and ALWAYS from the heart, but there was this obsessive need to be “keeping up” with the blogging/influencer community. I’ve met some of the San Antonio bloggers and they are amazing people so this post is not to discredit them in any way, but I began to lose focus on WHY I wanted to start a blog in the first place. I became obsessed with how many times I was posting. How many likes I was getting on social media. Did I post at the right time? Did I hashtag correctly? Will I start to become irrelevant if I don’t post lots of pictures with my face and cute outfit?
Comparison is a joy killer, peace stealer, and liar that is sweeping through the hearts and minds of so many. It’s bad enough that we can compare ourselves to the person next to us, but social media has made it even easier to be hard on ourselves. I have found myself, countless times, critiquing my looks after scrolling through hours on Instagram. And while I was feeling bad about myself, I found unhealthy pick me uppers. I would point out what others lacked to refuel my confidence. I looked at how many likes other people had to boost my ego. Am I the only one? Let me mentally tear down someone else so I can feel better about myself.
And while social media isn’t going away anytime soon and there is always someone else who is going to be more successful, what can we do to not compare ourselves? Here are some things that have helped me:
Go Back To Your Purpose
We are all created uniquely and put on this earth to do only what God has called us to do. So what is your purpose? God has given each of us a race to run so stop looking at the person next to you and focus on your lane. Continuously looking around will only deteriorate you from working towards your call. Comparing yourself to everyone else will only waste time that could be spent on putting your efforts into the task you’ve been entrusted with.
Know Your Craft
And just like we are all created uniquely, we are also gifted and skilled differently. I invited a few of my friends on this photoshoot who inspire me so greatly. Toni is a creative genius. I am so blessed that I not only get to call her friend, but she has helped me all year with my blog journey by taking my photos. I envision something and she brings it to life. Not only does she take AMAZING pictures, but she’s skilled in graphic design and marketing. Her capacity is out of this world. I’d be lying if I say that I haven’t compared myself to her. I have actually envied some of the skill she has, but when I take a step back.. the reason why we can collaborate and hit things out of the park is because she is operating in her craft, while I’m moving in mine.
Again, trying to do what someone else is called to do will only trip you up. Trying to be someone you’re not can have you feeling frustrated and inadequate. You’ll start to think you are not enough. Which brings me to my next point…
Measure Yourself With God’s Word, Not By What Other’s Are Doing
The Bible is filled with God’s promises and what He thinks about you. Don’t ever measure your worth or ability with what someone else is doing. The Bible says that God’s plans for us are good, and if His Word doesn’t return void, then live a life trusting the plans He has for you. Living by someone else’s standards and pace is exhausting. God’s timing is always better than what we have in mind. Even when things aren’t moving quick enough, He is working behind the scenes. If you’re trusting and obeying God, then where you are now, has nothing to do with lack. Be patient.
Celebrate, Don’t Compete
Man, oh man. This one has been a hard one to walk out. With sayings like, “community over competition, girls who support girls..”, I still struggle at times to celebrate others achievements when I’m not where I want to be. But my friend Carmen has made this easier for me. I met Carmen a few months ago and we instantly became friends. Every time I leave from having coffee dates with her, I leave feeling more inspired and ready to take on the world. She currently is the Director of an organization called Significant U that is encouraging and building up the next generation of women. She has shown me what it truly means to show your girlfriends support in their endeavors and offer help along the way. Carmen has taught me to stop talking about my dreams and aspirations, and just do it.
In order to celebrate, we must nail down 1-3. Not being confident in your purpose, craft, and what God says about you will cause you to compete and want to get ahead instead of celebrating when people are thriving in their calling.
So with all of this being said and much thought, I have decided to take a few steps back from blogging. Not completely, because I still love to write, but I’m dreaming up a few other ideas on how to use my platform. Everyone has influence and I want to make sure that I’m using mine to glorify God and bring others to Him. I truly believe that the direction I’m deciding to head into is a God Dream. It’s something that keeps calling to me. So stay tuned because 2019 is going to be a year filled with taking risks and stepping out in faith for me, but I feel the peace of God all over my life. His plans are higher than mine and bigger than I could ever dream. Thank you to everyone who has read any of my blogs and has supported me.
MUCH LOVE – Bri
Check out my amazing friends:
Toni Arauza: www.saythercreative.com
Carmen Lidia: www.significantu.org
Instagram/Facebook: Significant_U / Significant U